ADVISORTOMEN

Belonging is everything to humans.

In fact, the need to belong underwrites the whole emotional system. 

Connect = feel good.

Disconnect = feel bad.

A lack of social connection has twice the effect on health as obesity. 

Low connection brings your mortality in line with that of a smoker...  even if you never touch a cigarette...

Heart attacks, strokes, blood pressure, autoimmune disease and cancer, all worse when belonging goes amiss.

The most reliable predictor of happiness all over the world is a sense of harmony with those you care about — personal relationships and social support. 

Seeing someone you call a close friend or lover daily is worth about a 100K per year in equivalent life satisfaction.

Indirectly, our Defender Boards help you with personal relationships by making you stronger... so they are easier.

Directly... we help your social support. 

One of the men likes to say the internet could save men. 

I agree. 

Here's my ongoing concerns:

We are becoming isolated now more than ever. 

Whereas we used to have friends over to the house in decades past, that happens less and less now.

Less social groups, less volunteering.

It's all internet, social media and TV. The more of it we do, the less of everything else. 

The heaviest users suffer from more loneliness and depression.

The  smartphone has young people hooked...

... again, more use means more depression. 

It's all unnatural.

You know what I tell my kids? 


I convinced the boy when he was about five that watching any electronics caused brain worms. 


I told him these take over your brain slowly but surely until they are controlling you.

Whenever he gets too much screen time, you can see it in him. 

The obsessiveness, the boundary pushing, and even rude remarks.


 Luckily, I have the cure: tickling. 


Someone has to save him from himself...

He loves it. Even asks me to remove his brain worms, taunting me...



Don't worry... 

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I'm not going to tickle you. Relax. 


But when you join a men's group, we will laugh... 

Oh yes, we will... 



I actually want you on the screen, but under your control.

Things are changing in the digital era.

 Teenagers just hanging with each other has dropped 40% or more in the last twenty years.

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More than half of Americans now sometimes feel alone and left out. 

The fear in FOMO is for real. (fear of missing out). 

We are increasingly conned by a consumerist society.

Americans average 240 hours annual people contact vs over a thousand hours of TV.

Half of meals eaten are now eaten alone. 

What the ...? 

What about breaking bread together?

Hey, don't get me wrong: some people prefer seclusion. 

Those curmudgeons. Bless their hearts.

But not most. 


MOST of us need meaningful contact with each other. 


Or we die a little inside each day...

And just because a guy is married with kids doesn't mean he won't feel it. 

Half of lonely people are lonely within the family structure. 

Loneliness has life and death consequences. 


More isolation...
- increases stress hormones, 
- lowers your ability to learn, 
and causes inflammatory diseases like 
- arthritis, 

- heart disease, 

- chronic pain, 

- diabetes 
and... 

- dementia. 




My old man died of dementia not long ago. He really suffered his last few years. 

It was tough to watch...

Screw that. I'm going to live to one hundred and die in my sleep... like a man should. 

This all happens to men not because he can’t or won’t do something about it, and it’s usually just because life demands make it hard. 


WHY?

It's time, too busy taking care of business and others.

You need at least a handful of men you feel you can confide in and/or ask for help to gain perspective outside your own. 


That's a must.

Your missus (bless her heart) is too biased and it damages your relationship to take your stuff to her.

Tom says: "I highly rate and recommend 10M Men, Chris is a great facilitator and the men that this group attracts all have great insights to contribute. There's also a bunch of additional content that comes along with it which was a pleasant surprise." Tom McGinn 2022

Many of us grew up with distant fathers. Not all of us but many men are more comfortable with women, just because we're not used to it. 

It can leave us with a nice-guy syndrome and out of touch with our masculinity. 



Yet, having a male peer you can bounce things off is a critical success advantage. It helps in all areas.

Having men to turn to helps you:

- set goals 
- find more purpose
 - watch for obstacles 
- discuss challenges 
- overcome road-blocks 
- support your efforts  
- incrementally improve  
- implement more effective control over your life 
- stay connected to the masculine tribe

This is not because you can’t or won’t: it’s usually just because demands on your life make it hard.

Typically, men need a reason to meet up. 

To occupy your time, you need a payoff given your commitments. 



It's to your advantage to have a quality peer group, a mastermind peopled with like-minded men...  on your side.

Let me ask you this: when was the last time you invested in you? 


Because, we all need mentoring, coaching and constant learning, especially in these fast-paced and ever-changing times. 


If you are not expanding, you're dying. 



We make it easy for you:

Living True and Free means living truthfully and faithfully to your purpose, and less at the behest of those around you. 


Sure, serving your job, family, clients, communities and so forth is good, while doing so on your own terms is better and more fulfilling.

A man who uses his power & love in service of himself and others finds meaning.... and freedom.


Don't worry, we'll teach you how to live with purpose on your first day: you need to know this.

Relationships, Generativity, & Legacy, in people, work, spirit and the body are the realms over which you have dominion. 

And we go much deeper as you progress...

These are the elements to your power as you build a life to be proud of, one filled with deeper meaning.

JOIN THE BOARD AND GROW YOUR POWER TODAY!